Last Updated: Aug 22, 20
If you n’t take time to ge genuine praise and posite feedback to the people who work with you, you’re missing out on a golden opportunity to strengthen your relationship with them. There are three reasons why leaders often overlook this important aity.

In the course of a typil work day, you intera with your team members y times. During those encounters, you have lots of opportunities to complim, thank or praise them. But if you’re like y other leaders, you n’t.

Ever thought why you withhold posite feedback when it would cost nothing to ge it? Here are three possible reasons:

# You get busy. You’re moving fast and n’t take time to notice, much less comm on, the good someone else has ne or the value they’ve added to you or the erprise. It esn’t occur to you that a person wants or needs you to ge them a complim.

#2 You’re pre-occupied with yourself. Most people think themselves the majority of the time. Even with those whose work is critil to your success the people who report to you you’re likely to be consumed by your own problems, plans and priorities.

Both of these instances n be correed by simply slowing wn and focusing your attion outside yourself so you observe more. Then it’s easy to find opportunities to ge complims and posite feedback to others.

The last one is trickier beuse it’s a refleion of your self-esteem.

#3 You think you’ll appear inferior in some way if you pay someone else a complim. So at times, you consciously withhold praise. You have a twisted view that somehow, saying posite words to another takes away from your own self worth. But in reality, the opposite is true.

The more you make sincere affirming statems to others, the BETTER you’ll feel yourself. Your own life is enriched when you are generous with complims, provided they are heart-felt and authic. The simple a of expressing gratitude and appreciation adds to your own happiness and well-being. As novelist Gertude Stein reminds us, “Sil gratitude isn’t very much use to anyone.”

Here are just a few examples to mulate your thinking ways you n recognize and express appreciation to others:

“Thanks for the detailed attion you gave to completing that report. You covered all the bases really well.”

“I appreciate your being on time for this meeting since we have a lot of material to cover.”

“I really like the logo design you created. The colors are perfe and it looks classy. It’s as though you read my mind!”

“The suggested you gave for improving our initial interaion with new customers was excell. It will make a big difference in how they percee our company.”

So n’t wait. Start today to find something posite to say to every person you work with. You’ll increase their motation and satisfaion with their jobs and you’ll strengthen your relationship with them at this same time.

An repreneur since 982, Meredith Bell is a skilled coach and expert on behavior change. Her software company publishes assessm and developm tools for the people side of your business. For more information and the free guide for repreneurs, “Ignite Your Business,” visit:  


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